WHEN HE OR SHE CONTROL YOUR CIRCLE

Oh gosh gosh! This is my first post for early 2014..(obviously im not taking care of my blog) haha!

BUT, it's not the point now..what i want to share is about how i reflect my past relationship with someone (hmm..not mention the name )

It was a long time before, i was stucked in relationship where i can't let myself out of it. Each day i was so depressed and dissapointed because being CONTROL of what i want to do, think and anything in the world ( sounds wtf, right ).

Yeah, i was being control enough. Everything I want to do, I have to think about he's gonna say to me. Uh! I been through all of it. People out there, if you have the same situation like me, sure you understand.

Then, today i found this qoutes and " wink " wink", i have the point to say in my blog (hehe)

I have the thought why certain couple want to conquer their partner in everything. They started to control in what their partner do in everyday. Until at one point, they will get obsess and become more aggresive. This moment when the victim will feel insecure, fed up and so on.

I've been through that so i can understand how does it felt to whom might read this post. WHY? WHY? ...............................................................

Here, what i thought.

• They still can't rid off their past relationship ( maybe they used to be a victim )
• Insecure feeling to their partner ( such as dilemma whether to love sincerely or it is just temporary love feeling ) because the partner MIGHT LEAVE THEM SOON OR LATER. AN OTHER THOUGHT CAME OUT "Ohhh! How im going survive without him or her "
• Lack of trust !!!!.. This issue most of couple might forget when they are so obsess to control their partner. They do not understand, listen and interpret what their couples try to explain when it comes to discussion. Why? because they do not let THE TRUST lead them to be rational
• AND the most thing : They refuse to trust themselves at the FIRST PLACE. They don't want to make themselves trust what their rational mind want to. The result is that they become lack of confidence and lead to keep find their couple's mistakes ALL THE TIME.

Maybe some of my points makes you feel ( annoying ). It is just my mind want speak about. Whatever we do, please try to give space to yourself and partner to understand both freedom. I guess when you do understand both freedom, you will really try to give them limitless freedom as long as it makes them HAPPY. 

Seal and Love,
Jessica Chloe.